When You Get “The Letter” Home from Camp…
It usually arrives a few days into the session.
Maybe it is a postcard. Maybe it is notebook paper folded three times.
And maybe it says something like this:
Dear Mom and Dad,
Camp is terrible. I miss home so much. Please come get me today.
Love,
Your very dramatic camper
First. Don’t panic.
In a study by Dr. Chris Thurber, one of the leading experts on homesickness, a whopping 83% of campers reported feeling homesick on at least one day of camp.
That means homesickness is not unusual. It is not a sign camp is going badly. It does not mean your camper is miserable all day long.
More often, homesickness comes in waves.
A camper might feel sad during rest hour or before bed, write a heartfelt letter home, and then twenty minutes later head off to swim, laugh with cabinmates, roast marshmallows, and have an amazing evening.
By the time the letter actually arrives in your mailbox, your camper may already be doing much better.
That is why we encourage families to pause before reacting.
And if you receive a letter that raises concern, please call camp. We are happy to give you an update and partner with you.
Sometimes the best next step is writing back with encouragement.
A helpful letter home might sound something like this:
Dear Susie,
Thank you for writing and telling me how you are feeling. I know missing home can feel really big sometimes, and I am so proud of you for talking about it and asking for help.
I believe in you. Camp is new, and new things can feel hard at first. I know you can do hard things.
We are cheering you on from home and cannot wait to hear about the friends you are making and the fun things you are trying. Keep leaning into camp, stay busy, ask your counselors for help when you need it, and know we are so proud of you.
Love you always,
Mom
A letter like that can do so much. It reminds your camper that you love them, believe in them, and trust them to do hard things.
And even better, there are a few simple ways families can help set campers up for success before homesickness ever shows up.
This is where we really get to partner together.
1. Prevent
Encourage your camper’s independence before camp. Sleepovers, spending time away from home, or practicing simple routines on their own can all help build confidence.
Talk through what camp will be like before arrival. Things like where they will sleep, how the day flows, or how to ask a counselor for help can help camp feel more familiar.
Camp Newaygo is intentionally tech-free, so please leave cell phones and smart devices at home. We also know every camper is different. Sometimes a connection with home can help, and sometimes it can make homesickness feel bigger. We partner with families thoughtfully and use that option when we feel it would truly support the camper.
Send encouraging emails or letters. It is okay to say you miss your camper, but pair that with confidence. “I miss you and I know you are going to have such a great week” goes a long way.
And under no circumstances should parents make a “pick-up deal.” Promising “if you don’t like it, I’ll come get you” can make it much harder for campers settle in and trust themselves.
2. Problem-Solve
When a camper tells a counselor she is feeling homesick, the first thing we do is listen.
We remind campers that homesickness is normal and nothing to feel embarrassed about.
Then we coach through the moment. Sometimes that means helping write a letter home. Sometimes it means grabbing a buddy, jumping into the next activity, focusing on what is fun, or simply checking back in a little later.
Most of the time, a camper just needs support, encouragement, and a reminder that she is not alone.
3. Partner with Parents
If a camper is struggling and needs extra support, you may hear from a director.
Please do not let that scare you.
Sometimes we simply want to share an update. Sometimes we ask for a little extra encouragement we can pass along from home.
A message like, “We love you, we believe in you, and we cannot wait to hear about your adventures” can be exactly what a camper needs.
That partnership matters, and we are grateful for it.
And please know this.
You are always welcome to call camp for an update.
You have entrusted us with someone incredibly important, and we take that seriously.
We handle homesickness every summer. We know how real it can feel in the moment. We also get to watch campers move through it, find their footing, and leave camp stronger and more confident than when they arrived.
That growth is one of the best parts of camp.
And we are honored to walk through it with both campers and families.